When we have a fear or belief within us, our psyche will try to find proof to back up how we feel, no matter how destructive that thought is. We all navigate through the world with filter systems that take in the information we deem relevant and discard everything else.
For instance, if you think no one likes you, you will hone in on people not being nice to you and will ignore all the proofs that people do like you. I think you get the point. The fact is, we create our own stories and if we let those negative stories stick to the point where we actually start believing them as truth, we also create our own realities, a reality that brings our biggest fears to life.
You were luke-warm, there was nothing at stake … and if you heard from him, cool … if not then whatever. Trust me, I know how hard it is to have this mentality with the guys you actually do like, but what I want you to see is how much of an impact the thoughts we allow into our minds can have. Above all, stop worrying about it so much! Guys have no idea what a big deal this is to women. Most guys are shocked when I tell them how many questions I get about this topic. If his lack of a response causes you to feel physically sick with fear and worry, then these feelings are coming from you.
No amount of texts from him is going to solve this, you need to dig deep and get to the root of the issue on your own. Texting is not a barometer for the relationship. Focus more on the quality of the time you spend together as opposed to the quantity of texts exchanged each day. Just focus on yourself and being in a strong emotionally healthy place. Focus on your level of confidence and feelings of worth. Focus on controlling your thoughts and stopping them from spiraling into the obsession zone.
Focus on the things that are within your control you and your thoughts as opposed to things that are outside of your control him and how he feels. Guys can sense the emotion behind a text. From a place of needing him to respond a certain way in order to feel good about yourself, as opposed to reaching out to him out of desire or just wanting to because you like him. And check out this list of amazing questions to ask a guy over text to really deepen your connection. There will come a point when a guy might pull away and start to withdraw.
Do you know the right way to respond when this happens? There will come a point when a guy will ask himself: Is this the woman I want to commit to? His answer will determine everything. I love writing relatable, insightful articles that help people understand relationship dynamics and how to get the love they want.
I have a degree in psychology and have spent the last 10 years interviewing countless men and reading and studying as much as I can to better understand human psychology and how men operate. If you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Facebook or Instagram. I quickly started to like her and made the mistake of letting her know. What followed was a lot of mixed signals, she seemed very interested one day and disinterested the next.
It caused me a lot of confusion and so I stepped up my game in order to get a more definitive response. That caused her to be even more cold even to the point of being disrespectful and so one day I realized that she was just leading me on in order to get free attention and so I let her go and have been happy ever since. I was talking to a guys i met on a dating cite before i fall inlove with him a lot and hes definitely he always left me hanging, texting him and he always left me on seen and it really sucks like ik we both like each other but he obviously show that he lost interest in me it really hurts when u expecr too much just because he show you his time for a while and u suddenly started to overthink like you were in relationship even were just friends:.
I found this article yesterday after a few rough months and it feels like it has been written specifically about me. I see myself in so many of these situations and reading it really helps putting things into perspective and calm down. I have actually saved the link and read it again first thing this morning as some sort of bible. Thank you! When Im texting him S. I simply believe he dont care. If he with me he rush to whoever is on the other end of the phone.
Im done because I dont know what to do to have a friend who care about me. I literally think I'm going to reply to every single person who sends me something within five minutes.
But then I give myself 10 minutes. And then 10 minutes turns into 10 hours. Next thing you know, you realize you made a mistake. And by that point, you know have to think about both an adequate reply and a good reason for why you're texting back so late. It just snowballs into an unsolvable problem.
So please, have mercy. You remember that one teacher who made you feel better about never being able to do your work? You know, the one who convinced you it's because you're a perfectionist, and you'd rather come to class empty-handed than produce something sub-standard?
Well, I'm here to tell you there's a little truth to that for texting, too. I'd love to have a lightning quick reply for everybody, but I'm not just gonna send back any old thing. Nah, I can't do that. It's gotta be the perfect reply, one that's interesting and one that keeps the conversation going. I know that the moment I respond to a text message, there are billions of follow-up texts and it can be draining to reply to all of them. Sometimes, a man is afraid to say what he really feels at a particular moment.
So he avoids being put in awkward situations by just refusing to participate in a texting conversation with someone. Responding to her texts would just be prolonged agony of me not wanting to let her down. I like to play video games to clear my mind and destress. They treat these messages like classic novels wherein each line has to be analyzed and theoretically reflected upon. I hate that. Men know that a lot of messages can get misunderstood in the world of virtual communication.
There are no tonal or visual factors that go into play with texting, and so sometimes, innocent messages can come off as wrong or insulting.
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